Handling Teens And Moving
While relocating to a new place is tough on everyone, it is especially hard on teenagers. This class of citizens finds it incredibly hard to leave behind their friends, clubs, sports and other social commitments that they consider their life. It should not come as a surprise when a teenager yells at you that you are ruining their life when you spring the news of a move on them because it really is ruining their life in their perspective. So how do you handle teens when moving? Here are some tips;
Give them notice
The worst thing you can do is to spring the news about the move a few days before thinking that you are sparing them the pain. The truth is, it’s going to hurt no matter what but with enough time, the teen can adjust and get to terms with it. Let them know you are moving and explain all the reasons why you have to move as soon as you find out yourself.
Your teenager will without a doubt take the move personally and have some emotional response to the news. No matter how they react after you tell them, be understanding to their predicament and try to remember when you were once a teenager too. This is not the time to yell at them and make demands but a time to be calm and loving and understanding so they can come to you with their feelings when they calm down.
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Get them involved
The main advantage of telling the teenager about the move early is that they can get involved in the process. Let them tag along with you when you are house hunting and if it’s possible let them pick their own school. When the realtor sends pictures of new houses, call the teen and hear what they have to say. While at it, have them help with the packing and some heavy lifting. Involving them in everything will make them feel that you value their input and see them as adults so they will not resist too much.
Throw a going away party
Teenagers really care about what other people think about them. The best way to say goodbye to friends and leave a lasting impression is to throw a killer going away party. Let the teenager make a list of invites and basically be in-charge while you help where you can. A party will lighten the mood about the whole moving thing.
Find local activities
When you finally move to the new place, take some time to find local activities he or she can get involved in. It could be anything from sports, theatres and even religious centers that will make him feel he is gaining something not just losing. Introduce yourselves to neighbors and help all the kids settle in comfortably.
Teenagers will hate moving at first no matter what you do. Keep the lines of communication open and be there for them through the motions because eventually they will need you to comfort them.